Picking Up the Pieces After a Manic Episode
Many people wonder if it’s possible to destroy your life during a manic episode. During my first two bipolar one manic episodes, I took out loans that I couldn’t repay (for grandiose ideas I had), alienated my clients and friends, and came very close to buying an expensive car I couldn’t afford and a new house (I went so far as to fill out mortgage applications).
Both times, when the episode was over, I experienced depression. I felt hopeless and helpless to do anything about the mess that I had created. I missed my old life — before bipolar. These feelings fueled the depressive symptoms. It took some time and work, but fortunately, I was able to rebuild the pieces of my life. Here are some of the things that helped me.
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Be Gentle With Yourself
Self-compassion is important. Manic episodes are part of an illness, not a personal failure. Remind yourself that you did not make the choice to have an episode. Forgive yourself for the mistakes that you made while manic. Also, treat your body well. Try to get some movement in each day. This can look like spending 20 minutes a day doing gentle yoga.
Don’t Believe All of Your Thoughts
It’s common to have a lot of negative thoughts after a manic episode. You might think that you have destroyed your life, but that is likely a thought distortion known as “catastrophizing.” When you notice thoughts like this, challenge them. Replace them with more realistic thoughts, for example, “Things are bad right now, but they are not hopeless. There are things I can do to deal with the problems I face.”
Lean On Your Supports
A positive support system is so important for people with bipolar disorder. Luckily, I have very understanding and caring family members who helped me pick up the pieces after my manic episodes. Their support and care made a huge difference for me. It might be hard to open up about how you are feeling, but it’s important to be vulnerable and honest about how you are really doing and how they can help you.
If you don’t have supportive friends or family, support groups can be powerful as well. Attending support groups can be very empowering and comforting. The Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance (DBSA) has both in-person and online support groups.
Journal
Journaling can be very helpful after a manic episode. It can help you process all the painful feelings you might be experiencing. If you have wronged people in your life or damaged important relationships, journaling can give you a chance to make amends. It can help you let go of the pain without the fear of judgment.
You can also reflect on what you’re grateful for each day. This can make a difference in how you are feeling.
Find the Right Treatment
The right bipolar disorder treatment plan is the key to finding stability when you have bipolar disorder. Bipolar counseling is so important. If you don’t have one, find a knowledgeable, compassionate therapist. Also, find a competent bipolar disorder psychiatrist who can prescribe medications. Work with your mental health team until you find the combination of medications and therapy that works for you.
Final Thoughts
If you embarrassed yourself publicly on social media, hurt your relationships, or even did something illegal during a manic episode, it can be rough. The aftermath of manic bipolar behavior can make you feel like you're helpless, but that’s not true. Developing coping strategies, finding support persons that you can trust, and finding the right treatment can all help you feel more empowered and in control.
If you or someone you love is having suicidal thoughts or behaviors, seek help immediately. For help, call or text 988 for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. You can speak to trained counselors 24/7.
